From The Desk of Jenn

20 Darker Skinned Couples/Pairings Showcased in TV, Media and Movies That Need To Be Acknowledged

I must admit that it is fairly easy to get caught up in the whirlwind of current outrage whenever it hits social media news streams. Sometimes, and I am guilty of this myself, we get so caught up in being heard that we often completely ignore the facts that should be considered when talking about these complex issues. 

20 Darker Skinned Couples/Pairings Showcased in TV, Media and Movies That Need To Be Acknowledged

Focusing On The Right Sh*t This Year - A Concept

This year I’m not focusing my talks on racism nor will I be spending unnecessary time or energy going back and forth about things that will not see change in my lifetime. It’s not that I don’t care and it isn’t because I feel as though though things do not matter. They matter very much on a larger social scale but individually those fall lower on my list of things that need to be tended to.

Focusing On The Right Sh*t This Year - A Concept

Taking Back My Personal Space Because The Only Person It Needs to Be Safe For Is Me

There was a time where I positioned my page as a safe space for those who needed a place to vent or speak their experiences freely. I welcomed differing opinions and positions as a way to show that “I” was a supporter and a team player.

Taking Back My Personal Space Because The Only Person It Needs to Be Safe For Is Me

It's A Personality Thing, Not A "Hood" Thing So Please Stop Confusing The Two

This past weekend was a doozy for me. Not because of anything that I had going on personally but because of the difficulty I had navigating my social media timelines with all of the chitter chatter going back and forth in regard to the Cardi B and Nicki Minaj situation that sparked this weekend.

It's A Personality Thing, Not A "Hood" Thing So Please Stop Confusing The Two

Four Ways I Plan To Help Nurture My Daughters Growth Through Puberty

My daughter turned 10 in July. A whole 10 years old. It seems as though it was just yesterday that I was holding her in my arms and screaming, “You bet NOT climb on that damn table!!! AH EH!!! GET DOWN!” and I’m scared shitless.

Four Ways I Plan To Help Nurture My Daughters Growth Through Puberty

The Curious Case of the Nice Guy Who Four Years Later Simply Didnt "Get" It

Men always argue that women don’t want “nice guys”. The problem is they often conflate being a “nice guy” with a disillusioned idea that persistence is the same as being pushy to the point it’s intrusive and flat out annoying.

The Curious Case of the Nice Guy Who Four Years Later Simply Didnt "Get" It

Rewrite Your Childhood: Reflecting Back to The Moment My Life Got Turned Upside Down and How It Turned A 9 Year Old Girl Into An Emotionless Monster

The one most significant thing that happened that forever changed the course of my life would be that late rainy night in 1995 when I was shaken out of my sleep and rushed out of my home, having to leave everything I owned behind as we began our 4 year fugitive run across the United States.

Rewrite Your Childhood: Reflecting Back to The Moment My Life Got Turned Upside Down and How It Turned A 9 Year Old Girl Into An Emotionless Monster

A Different World: Revisiting Dwayne & Whitley's Toxic Cautionary Tale of the "Nice Guy" and the Male Ego

Whitley's wedding episode on A Different World has always made me twitch but for different reasons. Watching it at 32 vs watching it as a teenager gives me very different vibes, feelings and thoughts as it should. 

A Different World: Revisiting Dwayne & Whitley's Toxic Cautionary Tale of the "Nice Guy" and the Male Ego

Breaking Down The Unaddressed Side Effects of Being Forced to "Respect" and Fear "Authority" and How It Rolled Over Into My Adult Life

I'd like to think that most parents "meant" well and were only passing on knowledge taught to them through other elders of the community. But honestly, sometimes it feels as though these lessons were taught with the intention of silencing children so that adults could prey on their vulnerability, specifically. 

Breaking Down The Unaddressed Side Effects of Being Forced to "Respect" and Fear "Authority" and How It Rolled Over Into My Adult Life

A New Era of Black Men Have Hijacked "Nerd Culture" to Use Being a "Blerd" as A Weapon to Antagonize Black Women and Here We Go Letting It Happen, Again

Nobody wanted to be a nerd. Nobody. I am seriously trying to wrap my head around why, and how, all of a sudden everyone wants to be classified as one. Being a "nerd" was something that every person worked overtime to avoid being known as. It was like the social kiss of death.

A New Era of Black Men Have Hijacked "Nerd Culture" to Use Being a "Blerd" as A Weapon to Antagonize Black Women and Here We Go Letting It Happen, Again

We Are Responsible for R. Kelly and Bill Cosby, It’s Time We Talk About It and Deal With What We Helped Create

Same stories, different names with new allegations. To say that I am shocked would be a lie and to say that I am disappointed when be a miscommunication of the truth. The truth is I’m done.

We Are Responsible for R. Kelly and Bill Cosby, It’s Time We Talk About It and Deal With What We Helped Create

It Might Be Time To Cut The Emotional Tie I Have With Facebook Before Facebook Kills Me Mentally and Emotionally

OK that may sound a little dramatic. Obviously I’m going to log back in again. Facebook has become my way of staying in everyones business without having to actually deal with the person. I like being able to communicate with people from all over the world from the comfort of my living in my pajamas. The idea of having to go out into the world and “people” gives me the hives and I’d much rather stick myself in the eye with a fork

It Might Be Time To Cut The Emotional Tie I Have With Facebook Before Facebook Kills Me Mentally and Emotionally

Breaking Down My Need for Validation Helped Me Identify Co-Dependent Behaviors That Were Holding Me Back

I didn’t receive much praise growing up. I didn’t receive acknowledgements for doing things that my parents felt I should be doing anyway. Good grades weren’t rewarded. My step-father believed that good grades weren’t negotiable and didn’t deserve special praise. Anything below a B was a disappointment to him.

Breaking Down My Need for Validation Helped Me Identify Co-Dependent Behaviors That Were Holding Me Back

How My Mental Breakdown Helped Me Leave The Church And Find Myself

I grew up in the Apostolic church. I’ll be honest, I don’t have very good things to say about it. I have no good memories of my time as an active member. I can’t recall one time where I was truly happy while attending. I don’t remember many smiles. I don’t remember any key defining moments in which I knew without a doubt that was where I belonged. In fact, I always felt like the oddball. I never felt quite comfortable or as if I was suppose to be there. I tried though.

How My Mental Breakdown Helped Me Leave The Church And Find Myself

You and Your Revolution Can Kiss My Rear-End, I'm Not Marching I've Got Other Things To Do

My reluctance to being a sacrificial lamb for a cause that doesn't benefit me and for people who would easily through me under the bus for another is a form of SELF CARE. As a dark skin Black woman living in this disgusting and toxic society I have my own battles to fight and my own crosses to bear. I advocate for no one but MYSELF.

You and Your Revolution Can Kiss My Rear-End, I'm Not Marching I've Got Other Things To Do

Roxanne, Roxanne: A Story About Nothing I Didn't Already Know About A Black Girl Growing Up In The Projects

When I learned the Netflix was creating an independent film telling the story of Roxanne Shante I flipped, literally. I was so eager to finally get a story about a woman who helped shape and mold the hip-hip game. I was looking forward to seeing the recreation of her dopest battles and her struggles with holding her own in the industry.

Roxanne, Roxanne: A Story About Nothing I Didn't Already Know About A Black Girl Growing Up In The Projects

Growing Up With A Predator In The Home: How My Grandmothers Common Law Husband Got Access To Me + Screwed Me Up For Years

Having to perform domestic duties for “Roscoe” while being lusted after in exchange for money that would not have been coming into the household had it not be for me was the price to pay for a little change. I learned at the early age of 13 that nothing in this world was free, not even that which belonged to me.

Growing Up With A Predator In The Home: How My Grandmothers Common Law Husband Got Access To Me + Screwed Me Up For Years

Hoarders Helped Me Realize That Trauma Triggers Habits and Is A Sign of Deeper Unchecked Issues

I grew up in a family that had a tendency to hoard things only back then I didn’t “know” that it was called hoarding. For as long as I can remember my household has always been a halfway house for garage sale junk and flea market rehabs that usually ended up taking up space and residency in a far corner of the living room.

Hoarders Helped Me Realize That Trauma Triggers Habits and Is A Sign of Deeper Unchecked Issues

I Want a Supportive Relationship That Encourages Growth, I Don't Want To Be Your Damn Trophy

So when thinking in terms of "being in a relationship", the person I end up with needs to be able to, in some way, alleviate some of that pressure of always having to be "on". What else you got? Because I can "take care" of myself.

I Want a Supportive Relationship That Encourages Growth, I Don't Want To Be Your Damn Trophy

I'm Not Turning On My TV For A Reboot of An Old Show

While everyone seems to be excited to follow-up on their favorite characters from the original show I happen to be in the small percentage of people who are completely against the reboot and remake of the old older shows that I consider to be memories of my childhood.

I'm Not Turning On My TV For A Reboot of An Old Show

I Kind of Feel Like Dating Is For Teenagers, Adults Just Hang Out And Get On Each Other's Nerve

Growing up the pinnacle of every girls teenage years was when she was allowed to start dating. Nothing was more exciting and finally being asked on a date and you're allowed to go.

I Kind of Feel Like Dating Is For Teenagers, Adults Just Hang Out And Get On Each Other's Nerve

The 8 Types of Men I Have Learned to Avoid When Dating

Whether it was through a casual encounter, multiple party conversation or by design. Having had my fair share of dating “Hell No” scenarios I have a long list of “Not on my last leg” types that, if offered the opportunity, I would drown myself in chloride before going down that route again.

The 8 Types of Men I Have Learned to Avoid When Dating